A WOMAN’S WORTH

More than a precious stone,More than the words expressed in this poem
A woman is truly an amazing creation.
A woman is a mother,Who cares for her children like no other.
A woman is a sister,with love and respect she is always there for her brother. A woman is a wife,who can bring a mans heart to life.
A woman is worth more than anything in this world.
A man is quick to forget that it is a woman that brought him into this world,its is she that gave her time, and love without a word,her worth cannot be defined,for she is a gift from our Creator.
Subhanallah for we are truly blessed,a woman’s worth,a shining light.

Alhamdulillah for all the wonderful women of the world,  especially my Mother and Sisters

From: Ask only from Allah

The Man and The Scorpion

An old man saw a scorpion drowning in some water. He calmly extended his hand to reach the creature but when he did, the scorpion stung him.
With the effect of the sting he dropped it back into the water.

The man realizing that the scorpion was drowning again, got back and tried to rescue it but then again it stung him. He let go of it again.

A young boy standing by, approached the old man and said, "excuse me sir, you are going to hurt yourself trying to save the evil-vicious creature, why do you insist?

Don't you realize that each time you try to help the scorpion, it stings you?"
The man replied, "the nature of the scorpion is to sting and mine is to help." It will not change in helping the scorpion.

So the man thought for a while and used a leaf from a nearby tree and pulled the scorpion out from the water and saved it's life.
Then, turning to the young boy(a lesson for all of us as well), he continued.

Do not change your nature. If someone hurts you, just take precautions.
Some pursue happiness while others create it. Let your conscience be your guide in whatever you do.

Divorce after 35 years !! Must Read

An elderly man in Mumbai calls his son in New York and says,
'I hate to ruin your day son, but I have to tell you that your mother and I are getting a divorce; 35 years of marriage... and that much misery is enough!'
'Dad, what are you talking about?' the son screams.

'We can't stand the sight of each other any longer,' the old man says.

'We're sick of each other, and I'm sick of talking about this, so you call your sister in Hong Kong and tell her!'

Frantic, the son calls his sister, who explodes on the phone.

'Like heck they're getting divorced,' she shouts, 'I'll take care of this.'
She calls Mumbai immediately, and screams at the old man, 'You are not getting divorced. Don't do a single thing until I get there. I'm calling my brother back, and we'll both be there tomorrow.

Until then , don't do a thing, DO YOU HEAR??' and she hangs up.

The old man hangs up his phone and turns to his wife.

'Okay', he says, 'It's all set. They're both coming for our anniversary and paying their own airfare!!'

MORAL:

No man / woman is busy in this world all 365 days.

The sky is not going to fall down if you take few days LEAVE and meet your dear ones.

OFFICE WORK, MONEY MAKING OR AM COMMITTED is not everything in life !!!

So make that call to your beloved

Parents
Family
Or
Friends

Five Communication Mistakes Almost Every Couple Makes

No matter how in tune you are with your partner, misunderstandings and communication gaffes are always possible. Here are five of the most common, yet avoidable communication mistakes that could harm a relationship. Some types of communication are more obvious signs your relationship might be doomed: extreme criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. Today let's talk about the more subtle ways we might not be communicating as well as we could with our partners—and how to avoid them.

1. Assuming That More Communication Is the Solution

Surprise! You've probably heard before that good communication is the cornerstone of a happy relationship, and, while that might be true, communication alone won't necessarily create that happiness. Sometimes, too much talking could do the reverse. Erica Curtis, a licensed marriage and family therapist in California, says:

One of the biggest mistakes is assuming that communication creates connection. For many women, this is often true (talking helps us feel connected to others) but for many men (and for some women), this is not true. It's important to find ways to connect first, before communicating, or else the communication can just generate further feelings of hurt and disconnection. Connecting through a shared activity, acknowledging the efforts the other person makes, or even just being in physical proximity may create the needed connection required to have open and effective communication.

 

It helps to understand your partner's primary communication style. As I mentioned in a previous marriage post, one psychology theory is people have different "love languages," or ways they experience love best: through positive words, touch, quality time, etc. For example, you may be the type for whom actions speak louder than words; if your partner showers you with compliments but never helps with the household chores, that's a big disconnect. If you and your partner find yourselves always talking things out but still never getting over relationship hurdles, maybe concentrate on other, non-verbal ways to connect.

Of course, talking often is productive and necessary—the happiest couples talk with each other at least five hours a week—but as my fellow writer Thorin Klosowski details in this post about divorce, you have to make sure you're really speaking on the same wavelength and, if arguing, doing it productively. 

2. Expecting Your Partner to Read Your Mind

Remember that time your significant other was supposed to do something you wanted but later you found out he or she had no clue? Yup, try as we might, humans aren't great at reading each other's minds. (We have a hard enough time understanding what we do communicate clearly to each other.)

Melissa Dawn Lieberman offers excellent advice on the Mom It Forward blog [emphasis mine]:

I used to think that if my husband had an ounce of common sense, he would know what I wanted. For instance, when he came home after working a 12-hour day and found me and the baby home with the stomach flu, I assumed he already knew the answer to the question, "Can I go for a bike ride?" He didn't. If I didn't say, "No," he would leave me there, tossing chunks while I cleaned up baby poop.

You really can't assume that your spouse knows how you feel or what you want. You don't share the same feelings, worldview or thoughts. You might notice the dishes in the sink or remember that the kids haven't done their homework yet, but he might not. When in doubt, say it out loud.

3. Giving in and Not Really Saying What You Want or Think

If one or both people are averse to conflict, chances are emotions will be buried in the name of pleasing the other person. As someone who's the epitome of conflict avoidance, I can assure you that while that keeps the peace for the short-term, it'll only gradually erode your own happiness and, in turn, the relationship. Power to Change writes:

Some people describe the ideal marriage as a two-way street. If you don't have any arguments, or one side is always directing the traffic, you are riding on a one-way street without any communication. That's not something to cheer about.

4. Harping on (Possibly Hopeless) Issues

The opposite is true as well for couples where both people are stubborn and refuse to compromise. In that case, it's more like a one-lane street with two cars playing chicken with each other. One example of this is what Psychology Today calls the "Woodpecker Syndrome": one person fixates on their feelings and keeps going on and on about it while the other partner withdraws defensively:

One partner is just not willing to give up, continuing toxic conversations and repeating rash lectures.

It does not lead to any constructive dialogue, but a partner affected by the woodpecker syndrome perseveres, as if seeing some invisible "keep going" sign. She becomes a diligent and insensitive lecturer, making forceful monologues that drown in defensive silence. Nothing gets resolved; the relationship deteriorates further. Both partners get exhausted and wary.

This is a communication pattern of ever-diminishing returns. Soon just the mentioning of "let's talk" makes one want to run or hide. A pattern of talking at someone, not to someone, breeds disconnect and widens the relational rift. It does not matter how well-intended the comments are once they are delivered as a bullet point list of suggestions or a stern monotone monologue with no intermissions. Such a way is doomed to just sink in silence and can't serve any good purpose.

Psychology Today's advice? If you're the woodpecker, just stop talking. Rest, regroup, and try a different approach. Maybe on this specific matter you might not ever get your way—or maybe later you'll get through, but not by pecking.

5. Not Considering Things from the Other Person's Point of View

 Sometimes it's just a matter of being clearer, more upfront, or knowing the best way to communicate with your partner that's at the core of better communication. Equally important, though, is making the effort to understand things from your partner's perspective—something we might not always remember to do. Empathy is the most important skill you can practice, personally and professionally. You don't always have to agree with the other person, but at least you'll both be on the same relationship page.

Melanie Pinola