How can you apologize without actually saying the word "I'm Sorry"

I like this question because saying "I'm sorry" is one of the worst possible ways to apologize. Saying "I'm sorry" is lame. Of course you're sorry.

Proper apologies should have as many of the following elements as possible:
*Admit responsibility.
*Explain why what you did was wrong.
*Demonstrate that you understand the impact on the person you harmed.
*Detail how you are going (try) to fix what you did wrong.
*Ask if there's anything else you can do. (Never ask for forgiveness. That's their business.)

For example, if you let your dog poop in your neighbor's yard . . .

Allowing my dog to poop in your yard was wrong. It was careless of me. I don't like it that you had to choose between leaving Agamemnon's poop in your yard or cleaning it up yourself. In the future, I'm going to keep track of what Agamemnon is doing and carry poopy bags so I can clean up after him. Is there anything else I can do to make this right?

Proper apologies do not include counter accusations. Get your side of things cleaned up first before you worry about their side.

It just occured to me--the question might mean "how can I apologize without admitting responsibility." If that's the case, you can't. That wouldn't be an apology. That's called trying to make yourself feel better without accepting responsibility.

By: Eric Lauritzen

Are you still learning who you are? Trying to do the right thing

At 15, I thought I knew everything. I knew what love meant. I knew how relationships worked I knew how you could use your mind to analyze things

At 25, I thought that 15 year old me was stupid, and now I know everything. The 15 year old me hadn't been in a relationship, hadn't really been in love, hadn't really had to solve problems on my own. Now, that I had done all that I know everything

At 35, I thought the 25 year old me was stupid, and now I know everything. Now I saw that the world is not black and white. And what you think is right, is not always right. You see that you  could be like the people you used to vilify. You really need to look at the same thing in differrent ways before you judge it

I turned 39 yesterday, and I realized that the 15 year old me made a lot better decisions because he looked at Life in a much simpler manner.

Lesson: Take life Simple, Everything will be much easier.

By: Jayesh Lalwani

Our Viewpoint

A famous writer was in his study room. He picked up his pen and started writing:
**Last year, I had a surgery and my gall bladder was removed. I had to stay stuck to the bed due to this surgery for a long time.

**The same year I reached the age of 60 years and had to give up my favourite job. I had spent 30 years of my life in this publishing company.

**The same year I experienced the sorrow of the death of my father.

**And in the same year my son failed in his medical exam because he had a car accident. He had to stay in bed at hospital with the cast on for several days. The destruction of car was another loss.

At the end he wrote: Alas! It was such bad year!!

When the writer's wife entered the room, she found her husband looking sad lost in his thoughts. From behind his back she read what was written on the paper.

She left the room silently and came back with another paper and placed it on side of her husband's writing.
When the writer saw this paper, he found this written on it:

**Last year I finally got rid of my gall bladder due to which I had spent years in pain.

**I turned 60 with sound health and got retired from my job. Now I can utilize my time to write something better with more focus and peace.

**The same year my father, at the age of 95, without depending on anyone or without any critical condition met his Creator.
 **The same year, Allah blessed my son with a new life. My car was destroyed but my son stayed alive without getting any disability.

At the end she wrote:
This year was an immense blessing of Allah and it passed well!!
 See!!

The same incidents but different viewpoints. If we ponder with this viewpoint that what could have happened more, we would truly become thankful to Allah (God) subhanawata'aala.

From: Learn Islam

Is how to win friends and influence people still relevant?

Is how to win friends and influence people still relevant?

Yes, it is among my most highly recommended books. The principles are as follows:

BECOME A FRIENDLIER PERSON
1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest, sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
4. Become genuinely interested in other people.
5. Smile.
6. Remember that a person's name is to that person the most important sound in any language.
7. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
8. Talk in terms of the other person's interest.
9. Make the other person feel important - and do so sincerely.
10 The only way to get the best of an argument is to
avoid it.

WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING
11. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
12. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
13. Begin in a friendly way.
14. Get the other person saying, "Yes, yes" immediately.
15. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
16. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
17. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
18. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
19. Appeal to the nobler motives.
20. Dramatize your ideas.

BE A LEADER
21. Throw down a challenge.
22. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
23. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
24. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
25. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
26. Let the other person save face.
27. Praise the slightest and every improvement. Be "lavish in your praise."
28. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
29. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
30. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

None of that is obsolete.

Howie Reith, Singer, Entrepreneur.